Best Tips for Anger Management for Christian Mums

Has anger, frustration and irritation taken over your life? Do you feel at your wits’ end on how to handle your emotions as a mother? As a homemaking homeschooling stay-at-home mum with a bunch of dogs, I truly understand the triggers and frustrations, so I’m going to share some tips for anger management for Christian mums.

Being a mum is work, it’s hard work. Whatever your family dynamics, whether you homeschool or the children go to school, you’re a homemaking stay-at-home mum, or work full time, part time in the house or out of the house, whether you’re married, divorced or single, whether you have 1 child, 3 children or 9 children… we all have our versions of hard and chaos.

The biggest thing that helps one mum to another is how she handles her emotions, and anger is a big ole’ toughie one to navigate, especially when you have little ones needing you 24/7.

Whatever your family situation, let’s take a look at anger management for Christian mums to see what can be done to help you be a mum with a little more peace in your soul.

How to deal with anger as a Christian woman?

I am no expert; I am not a qualified doctor, psychologist, or therapist. However, I am a woman, a mother and a Christian, and with that whole bag of life experience, I can share my opinions on what might work with dealing with anger as a Christian woman.

There is general common sense and wisdom that can be applied regardless of whether one has faith or not. However, after living many years without faith and now for a number of years with faith at the forefront of my life, I can wholeheartedly say that faith helps manage emotions.

Every single day I pray to God, read the Bible, a devotional and a Christian book, and fill my mind with faith-based words and energy. It is a priority to absorb my mind in scripture and to be tuned into the spirit of God. Why? Because it helps with life, especially in moments of anger and frustration rising up.

As a Christian mother, I find that to deal with anger or frustration rising, I have to have my mind filled with faith, scripture to turn to, and the power of prayer to help me manage my emotions and not be thrown into guilt or shame for any moments of reacting from these normal human emotions.

What does the Bible say about anger management?

Is it wrong to be angry? Should we be ashamed, full of shame and guilt when feeling angry? This is what the Bible says about anger:

Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city. ~ Proverbs 16:32 ESV

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger. ~ Ephesians 4:26 ESV

We have to learn to deal with anger God’s way. It is a normal human emotion to be angry, and trying to run away from it will do us no good. We have to face it head-on, accept the feeling and learn to manage that emotion so that we don’t just spew all that anger onto those around us in that heat-filled moment.

We have all experienced anger at some point in our lives, and it can be a real problem. Though it starts as a harmless feeling, it can quickly grow into something dangerous that’s hard to control.

But with God’s help, we can learn how to deal with our feelings and walk in His peace.

I’ll admit, years ago I pretty much did and said anything I felt like. I have a pretty strong personality, so if you said something to upset me, there was a good chance I would let you know about it.

Thank God, over time He changed me through His Word and helped me begin to manage my emotions through the power of His Holy Spirit.

I learned how to operate in self-control, which means I didn’t always say everything I wanted to say. Now, that’s freedom!

~ Joyce Meyer, Dealing with Anger…God’s Way

Be gentle on yourself, have compassion for your human nature and learn to embrace that strong emotion.

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Best Tips for Anger Management for Christian Mums

Here are 10 top tips to help with anger management for Christian mums. Do not worry about trying to follow every single one to the T. Start steady and pick one and see how it resonates with you.

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Tip 1: Breathe

Focus on your breath.
Slow down the breath with a big inhale and exhale.
Do this 3 to 5 times.
This helps to calm the emotion and bring you back to your centre. It can help you to stop reacting with anger, or if you have already started to react, it can help get you out of that reactive mode.

Tip 2: Be gentle

Say in your mind or out loud to ‘be gentle’.
The thought of being gentle can help you to actually be gentle. It’s a very simple and smart way to switch you off from being intense and bring you back to a softer you.
Repeat ‘be gentle’ as your breathing slows down and you become gentler in your whole being.

Tip 3: Be quiet

Stop talking. I know, easier said than done for us mamas, but the truth is it really helps to simply zip it up to keep the peace.
When caught up in the high energy of frustration, irritation and anger, when we speak, we can spew out hurtful words. Focus on being quiet when triggered to avoid hurtful words.
Practice, practice, practice with this one, and you might find it a true blessing to be quiet.

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Tip 4: Be calm

Thinking or saying quietly to ourselves to ‘be calm’ can help in moments of frustration.
Repeat these two words and notice that the calming effect of these words can help reduce the heated emotion and bring you back to a calmer centre.

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Tip 5: Walk away

Just walk away.
If you are struggling to control your emotions and you know that you will regret how you react, one of the best things you can do is to remove yourself from the situation.
If it is safe to leave, and the children will be ok, then remove yourself from the room. This can be a real lifesaver in those intense moments. Tip: Don’t expect others to leave the room; it has to be your responsibility if you’re the one feeling triggered.
If it is not safe to leave the children to go to another room, then another option is to walk away from the children to another part of that same room to create distance, giving you a chance to calm your mind and body.

Tip 6: Read the Bible

Game changer! This is the essential physical tool to help with anger management for Christian mums.
If you don’t have a Bible, buy one; if you have one, make sure it is to hand in a room where you frequent daily.
You can read the Bible from cover to cover as a story, or pick topics and find scripture related to that topic. If your Bible has an index with keywords, use it for words such as anger, peace, calm, gratitude, mother, family and home. Or use Google for such keywords for the scripture that will be relatable.
Read scripture in the morning and at night, even if it is only one sentence. Pour your soul into it every day to help build that habit of turning to scripture to help you with daily challenges. When anger and frustrations hit, you already have the habit built with turning to the Bible for wisdom. Creating the habit of morning and night helps ensure you are reading the word of God, no matter how chaotic the day, and it helps set you up for the day and to release tension from the day at night.

Tip 7: Pray daily

Always make time to pray, I find it essential in my life to handle the ups and downs.
You can pray standing, sitting, lying down, walking, eyes open or closed, hands together or on your knees. It doesn’t matter where you are or what your body does, just pray.
Praying can be a set prayer you follow or a conversation.
Pray for a short or long time.
Pray in the morning and at night.
Pray in little moments throughout the day to help relieve tension, manage conflict and guide your inner thoughts as you handle feelings of anger and frustration.

Tip 8: Spiritual sisters

Create friendships with other women who are spiritually connected.
It helps to have friendships with women who “get it” spiritually. Yes, you can still be friends with other people; however, there is something heart-opening and powerful when connecting with others who are spiritually tuned.
Whether it’s Christian women, or other religious women, or women who don’t follow a religion but still are spiritually switched on, embrace them with open arms.
Surrounding yourself with women of a spiritual nature will provide you with the loving support that can help you manage your deep emotions.
Believers of God, the Creator, the universe, whatever someone’s belief is, can be beautiful and powerful in helping us connect with others who don’t have to be exactly the same way as us, but they still have a deep sense of faith in life and can embrace us in times of struggle.

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Tip 9: Local community

Just as having spiritual sisters helps, so does being involved in the local community. This simply means socialising, getting involved in local groups.
Go to a church, if you homeschool meet up with other homeschool families, take your children to a weekly activity such as dancing, football or martial arts class.
It is so important to socialise, especially in this modern culture of being busy and high usage of technology. Get to know your neighbours, say hello to people in your local area, and create a sense of belonging and community where you live.
All of this helps with mental health and inner peace, aka great for calming the nervous system.

Tip 10: Clear communication

Clear communication is essential for managing anger and frustration. It can be incredibly difficult to express ourselves clearly when tempers rise, but the more we can learn to express our feelings and needs more openly, the easier it will become in the long term.
Making it clear to those around us why we feel the way we feel and what triggers us can help to set healthy boundaries and an understanding of how to handle each other in those intense moments.
Speak up, share your feelings, and be honest about who you are. Yes, this can be scary, but it will ultimately serve you and your loved ones to help create better relationships.

Frequently Asked Questions

We all have the strong emotion of anger; acceptance of that intense emotion will be a great starting point. From there, utilising tools that will serve you best is the next step. Whether it’s the power of prayer, journaling, reading specific scripture, talking to a spiritual sister and seeking wise counsel, choosing to be quiet, and/or most of all, focusing on love.

Love is the ultimate tool to help ground us in those supercharged emotions as a mother.

Follow the tips in this blog post to help deal with anger. Read scripture, pray to God, connect with your inner spirit, seek wise counsel at church, lean on spiritual friends, and keep God in first place as you work through anger and intense emotions.

It depends on what you feel rage is, is it anger, frustration, irritation or more than that? Perhaps you can never ‘get rid’ of rage, and learning to accept all emotions from positive to negative is that initial step.

From acceptance of intense feelings, focus on what will bring you peace. Pray, read scripture, take care of your health and well-being, get enough sleep, eat healthy food, surround yourself with loving people, go to church, listen to enriching music, keep God at the centre of everything you do.

If nothing works, sometimes it can be helpful to seek professional help to get the extra guidance needed to help balance your emotions and well-being.

Ever tried to do everything on your to-do list and still not feel you’ve done enough? Ever tried to stay up late doing work or watching a film and then getting up early to do more work or fit in a workout? Ever tried to be a mum, wife, work, care for the home and pets, have little sleep and still keep pushing? And do all of this on repeat day after day, week after week, month after month. This is just a little slice of potential mum burnout.

Ladies, quit the push. Quit the all-or-nothing. Quit the overambitious state of mind. Quit trying to do it all 24/7. Just quit it.

We do not have to do it all. All the time. It is ok to do a little less, to relax, to breathe in between each thing, to put our energy into one or two things. There is nothing to prove to society, to others, to ourselves. You are enough.

Let me repeat, you are enough.

Let it go. Focus on what truly matters for you and your family, and keep that in mind as you fill your spirit with love and nurture your family from a place of peace.

best tips for anger management for christian mums

Conclusion

Learning to manage anger and frustration may be a long process, but it will be worth the time and energy to put into practice new ways of being to help create a calmer you and a peaceful environment.

We all have anger, we all feel intense emotions, we all get annoyed and irritated, but there comes a point when we have to take responsibility for our feelings and reactions to help our own well-being and loving relationships.

To help with anger management for Christian mums, help with mental clarity, creating peace in your soul and home, and building better habits with your health, check out the Ultimate Gratitude Journal, the Ultimate Self-Care Journal, and the Ultimate Faith Planner.

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Best Tips for Anger Management for Christian Mums

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